In my mind’s eye, I can still see her sweet, little five-year-old face take on a certain resoluteness as my daughter matter-of-factly stated after school one day, “Mom, I have to tell you something.” My heart beat faster as I instinctively knew by her body language and the tone in her voice that this “something” was a big deal.
My kindergartner went on to explain how another child sitting in her seat on the bus had “tickled her” that day in the area between her legs. She shared with me that it didn’t feel like a normal tickle and that she had told the other child to stop, but that the action was repeated instead. Supernaturally, my initial shock, disappointment, and internal mama-bear-anger, quickly gave way to thankfulness.
In that moment, I was grateful that we had recently begun talking to our children about God’s design for sex when our small group was going through Quest: Parenting in a Sexualized Culture together. We had given those particular body parts their proper names and had begun to discuss how they had special purposes in God’s plan for us as sexual beings.
Most importantly, we emphasized a principle that we had heard for the first time when going through Quest. That is, our children could come to us with anything and everything on their minds whether it related to sex, their changing bodies, or something else. In turn, we promised that we would refrain from “freaking out,” we would give them a truthful answer to any questions they had and we would come alongside them to work through any issues.
It occurred to me that perhaps my daughter’s boldness to come and talk to me that day without any shame or guilt was a result of the foundation we had laid because of Quest. The Holy Spirit then enabled me to respond to her with the calm assistance that I had promised. We were able to inform the proper authorities who took action to ensure that this event was not repeated and in time, God gave my daughter and the rest of our family opportunities to help the other child involved.
Today, several years after the bus incident, I stand in awe of God’s perfect timing to connect our family to pureHOPE and to their resources when He did. I know of at least two lives—my daughter and myself—that are better because of it.
This story has been shared by a parent who has gone through Quest: Parenting in a Sexualized Culture. She hopes this story encourages other parents and disciple-makers.
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