“And with great power the apostles were giving their testimony to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus, and great grace was upon them all.” Acts 4:33
Spring is a season of renewal and the time when we remember the resurrection of our Lord Jesus! And, spring provides the perfect springboard for conversation with our kids about the power of God—to overcome death by breaking out of the grave, and to overcome sin by making us new! It’s also a great time to initiate or continue the conversation about His more compelling story of sex. Here are some helpful tips as you continue that dialog in your own home or with kids that you influence:
Invite hard questions and encourage difficult dialogue. Let your kids know that they can ask you anything. If it is a word they hear or a phrase they don’t understand, assure them they have permission to come to you for an answer without fear of shame or punishment. Let’s become our kids’ go-to person when it comes to sex. “I’m sorry” is a great start if you’re starting late. “Thank you” is encouraging to your kids who may be embarrassed. Simple, bridge-building statements can go a long way.
Look for and take advantage of “teachable moments.” These “moments” occur every day, probably every couple of minutes if we are looking for them! Whether it is a song on the radio, a commercial on TV, or the latest fashion trend, talk to your kids about whether it fits into God’s plan and design. Be sure to include yourself in the situation. “I don’t need to watch that commercial because it demeans women” makes a very positive, healthy statement to your son or daughter. This may not feel rewarding in the short-term when you are met with eye-rolls, but ultimately this is a consistent way you can model godliness to your children.
Share your own successes, and be honest about your failures. In other words, like the apostles, give your testimony with “great grace” upon you!
So many parents are paralyzed by the fear of talking about their failures with their kids
that they make a decision not to bring up the subject. The evil one prefers nothing more. Don’t fall for this trap! The redemptive work of Jesus on the cross has given us pardon and victory in every area of our lives. When your kids ask you about your past and how you did, answer them honestly. It doesn’t need to be a confession of every detail, but it should be honest: “Frankly, I didn’t do so well, and I want to help you avoid the pain and consequences that I suffered as a result of my decisions.”